CBT is letting go of the attachment to your ideas that have outgrown their usefulness to you. It’s like blowing away your self-destructive beliefs.
You’ve probably heard: “Pain is unavoidable. Suffering is optional.”
When someone breaks your heart – that is pain.
You keep telling yourself months and years later that it was her fault, that you should have said it differently, that you’ll never find another love again – that is suffering.
The ensuing lethargy, sense that life has become pointless and futile can be part of depression.
Exploring and letting go of this attached narrative that has trapped you in the pain and perpetuates your suffering, is CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy).
Being mindful of your pain; holding it in your heart and not letting it loose to ruin your life; mourning the loss, then letting it go and preparing for a new adventure – that is healing.
Understanding that death, just as birth, is an essential part of nature and it is nothing personal – is existential thinking.
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This article is an update of a blog that was originally published on https://majapsychotherapy.com
Marianna Jakucska is a licensed marriage and family therapist in Sacramento, CA. She does psychotherapy online across California, in a setting that is variably called telehealth, teletherapy or therapy-over-the-internet. She specializes in collaborative working with highly perceptive/sensitive people, the creative and the “misfit” to assist them in building a fulfilling life. Her clinical focus is on developmental trauma, depression, anxiety, cultural adjustment, and people single over 30; CBT, DBT, Existential and Eclectic approaches. She is bilingual in Hungarian and brings a broad cultural perspective into her therapeutic work. She is supportive of the LGBTQ Community and people who are seeking spiritual as well as mundane meaning to their life.